RULE 40
Give them control
There’s another reason why you have to accept other people’s decisions if you’re genuine about wanting to help them. It’s important for everyone to feel in control of their own lives. If you start making their decisions for them – however well-meaning you are – you’re taking away that control.
Yes, you might be right that they’re heading towards disaster, but at least they’re behind the wheel of their own car, and they have the option (whether they choose to take it or not) of turning down a side road, or slamming on the brakes. If you grab the steering wheel, they’re going to feel even more terrified.
What’s more, this is their car, and you don’t know as well as they do how it drives. You might not have made allowances ...
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