RULE 28

Listening is what matters

Yes, I know I just said that talking was what mattered, and now I’m saying listening is what matters. Don’t get picky with me, smart-arse! Haven’t you been listening yourself, anyway? We’ve just established that being a teenager is a mass of apparent contradictions which do actually make sense deep down. So now I’m joining in. Talking and listening are both what matter. And not only with teenagers, as I hope you’ll realise. This Rule goes for anyone.

You know, sometimes parents can be just like teenagers – they think they know everything. They’ve been teenagers themselves, they’ve learnt stuff since then that their kids don’t understand, they can see the bigger picture – yep, they’re confident they can tell ...

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