RULE 33
Get in the swamp
Recognise this? Your partner, or someone close to you, tells you they’re upset about something. You listen and then start making suggestions as to how to solve their problem. And instead of being grateful, they get more upset and now it seems to be partly your fault but you’ve no idea why …
Trust me, it’s not only you this happens to. In fact you have probably experienced this from the other side yourself – you feel upset and your partner (or whoever) keeps offering solutions to your problem and it really winds you up. You don’t know why – clearly they’re trying to help – but it just isn’t helping and you’re starting to regret mentioning it to them at all.
Whichever one of you is upset in this scenario is getting frustrated ...
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