The Self-Reliant Entrepreneur

August 24Beyond First Impressions

He must always make a deep impression; but to suppose the world at large capable of a right estimate of his different powers, would be forming a judgment against every-day proof. However deep may be the first effect of genius upon us, we come slowly, and through study, to a perception of its minute beauties and delicate characteristics. After all, the greater part seldom get beyond the first general impression.

Richard Henry Dana—“Kean's Acting” (1850)

The Kean in “Kean's Acting” quoted here is Edmund Kean, a British Shakespearean stage actor of the era. The reading comes from a theatrical review of the celebrated actor's work, but it contains an important element of human nature and how we develop relationships and appreciation for the art of others.

Rarely do we choose to go beyond first impressions.

First impressions, first meetings, first sales calls, first interviews, are where people decide if we are likable, trustworthy, maybe even smart enough for the task. But it only dents the shell and holds little lasting value for either party.

Networking events are first-impression mixers.

You were meant for something much deeper. You were meant to show the world your “minute beauties and delicate characteristics.”

So how do you do this? Do real stuff with people, share experiences, find tribes with shared passions and nothing to gain, seek out diversity—this is where you'll find profound connections and common bonds. (They exist online and ...