
186 See Yourself as a System
ON THE PRACTICE FIELD
• With a trusted peer or adviser, discuss the idea that we each act dif-
ferently around others, depending on the individuals and the situa-
tion involved. Ask the other person how he or she shows different
“selves” at different times and with different people. Ask whether this
ability to adapt has helped or hurt the person’s relationships and pro-
ductivity. Notice whether you are becoming more or less comfort-
able with the notion that people’s selves are multifaceted.
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