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encourage her to explain her behavior in her own
words. Pay close attention to how she responds. Spe-
cifi cally, you should do the following:
• Listen actively. Concentrate on the recipient’s
message and its implications rather than on
your response. In particular, listen to what she is
describing and what images and metaphors she
uses, and if you don’t understand something, ask.
• Notice nonverbal cues. Take note of the recipi-
ent’s body language and tone. Does her tone of
voice and facial expression match what she’s
saying? Does her body language appear tense or
uncomfortable? Comment on what you see and
ask her to tell you more about it. (“Judy, you
seem angry. Did something I said seem unfair
to you? T ...